The thing we value the most about CFQS is our community. CrossFit Queen Street is full of amazing people who work hard, care about each other, and support each other in the quest to become better. We take these relationships very seriously.
We see gossip as a direct affront to what we are all trying to achieve at CFQS. Gossiping is making conversation or about other people and their private lives that might be unkind, disapproving, or not true. It can also just be sharing information about someone that is not necessarily yours to share. While gossip is very common, and a natural and mindless way to communicate with others, it can do a lot of harm to you, those you are gossiping to, and those you are gossiping about. Let’s break this down:
WHAT GOSSIP DOES:
It makes you focus on things that are out of your control (the actions and lives of others).
It can be a distraction from discussing the things you really are interested in or care about.
It can fuel jealousy, negativity, and insecurity.
To the person you are gossiping about:
It can negatively impact their relationships with others.
It can make the gym a negative environment for them. No one likes to walk into a room feeling like everyone just finished talking about them.
To the person you are gossiping to/with:
This one a bit less obvious, but perhaps the most direct negative impact. When you gossip to someone, it may feel like you are bringing them closer, or sharing a secret or some special information. But what you are really communicating is that you are not the type of person to be trusted. It sends a message to the person you are gossiping to that any personal information they share with you is ultimately not private. This limits your ability to form a meaningful relationship with that person, as they will feel uncomfortable being open with you.
HOW TO REDUCE GOSSIP
Ask yourself why you are sharing information about someone before you do it.
Is this your information to share? Is it positively contributing to the conversation? Would you be ok with that person overhearing you talk about them? Would you say it to their face?
Before engaging in gossip, remember what it feels like to be on the other end. Almost all of us have some experience with being the topic of gossip that has been harmful or hurtful. It isn’t worth the risk of making someone feel that way.
Think about the type of person you want to be.
Do you really want to be the type of person who makes small-talk about other people, spreads rumours, or creates drama? Think about the people in your life who you admire or look up to. They are probably not gossips. Most of us aspire to live our lives with integrity and be the type of person that people feel they can trust. A great way to practice living a life of integrity is avoiding gossip.
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Our members are doing awesome things out in the world, be that in their careers, in their studies, or with travel and other pursuits. There are endless things we can learn from each other if we ask the right questions.